Thanks for all the help with Language in SF. I'm sure my student appreciates, or will after having fought through the density of links. One of those from ffoeg sent me to a great site -- http://tenser.typepad.com/tenser_said_t
I can't resist retailing this a little farther. I found the reference at http://www.livejournal.com/users/boxofdelights/ (I still don't know how to insert a Friend's login name). It's a comment on the Ted Haggard scandal by another hardworking minister faced with the evils of the world. (boxofdelights supplies a neat analogy in Anna Karenina).
"Most pastors I know do not have satisfying, free, sexual conversations and liberties with their wives. At the risk of being even more widely despised than I currently am, I will lean over the plate and take one for the team on this. It is not uncommon to meet pastors’ wives who really let themselves go; they sometimes feel that because their husband is a pastor, he is therefore trapped into fidelity, which gives them cause for laziness. A wife who lets herself go and is not sexually available to her husband in the ways that the Song of Songs is so frank about is not responsible for her husband’s sin, but she may not be helping him either." Emphasis (I think) in original.
This seems like a good suggestion for gay husbands in general. If their wives would just be a little sexier they might not be forced to choose two from Column B instead. (Is that an antique reference?)